Avoidants Aren’t Chilled: They’re Just Disconnected and Scared

They didn’t ghost you because they were too busy.
They didn’t pull away because they were “just not that deep.”
And they didn’t get uncomfortable because you were “too emotional.”

They pulled away because your presence touched something in them they weren’t ready to face.

Avoidants often come across as calm, independent, and unbothered.

But don’t confuse nervous system shutdown with emotional regulation. They’re not grounded; they’re disconnected.